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The keeper of my triumphs, near misses and failures is fading away. Time is no longer allowing the two of us to share forty-seven more years of friendship. Time is now dictating the days we have left to tell each other how important we are. To each other.
If I were the praying kind or believed lemony, cake frosting words, I’d hang on to the adage that everything does have a time and a season.
Reality? We all our going die. Sometime. Especially if we’ve lived, in numbered years, a very long time.
She has just always been there…and that’s the difficult part for me.
She has always been there. Here. For me. Always.
We share a lot of history…
She helped me bury my husband, and I was with her when she buried hers.
She told me once that she wanted to live no longer than ninety years.
She’ll be ninety-one in less than a month.
Only the history we share is fading. Not the spirit of our history.
She will always be here. With me and for me.
Always.
My Eloise on our 2009 Alaskan cruise…
We imagine ourselves as being a widow when our husbands pass, even when our parents continue their journey, but two moments in life we avoid thinking about, in fact, I think they rarely have a place in our minds are losing our children and losing our best friend…UNTHINKABLE! so, eventhough I’m a new follower, I send you a warm hug, because I have a friend that’s been with me since kindergarten and I don’t want to imagine my life without her… my thoughts are with you both, Alexandra
Again, thank you A. Letting go of a life…at some point…doesn’t mean releasing the memories of a life time to a place/space seldom visited. We are all in the business of making memories for a few…or many. My hope is my good memory parts, the ones I’m leaving behind, are much larger than the not-so-good. Smiling here….
I am crying. That was so beautifully written–I can feel your pain. Good friends are hard to find, and it sounds like you truly treasure yours. You are in my thoughts.
Thank you so much for your heart-felt words. E. is and always will be a treasure. Your kind words mean a great deal. Again, thank you.
This is really beautiful. Heart-wrenching, really.
Responding to comments (especially after coming home) has been difficult. There have been so many other lives in crisis…my “crisis” so small compared to the many on the east coast.
Thank you for your comment. In sincere appreciation.
Sorry I missed this post. Be strong, Braveheart.
Your sentiments so kind and gracious. Thank you so much Monica. The world keeps turning no matter how badly we’d like it to slow down…or stand still…to relish what we have. What we will miss when it is gone. Thank you.
Beautiful. I’m sorry I missed this when you posted it. Lots of hugs.
So many beautiful thoughts and words sent….and hugs received. Yours included. Thank you so much and sincere apologies for the delay in responding. Your comment still means a lot.
Hope you’re doing alright, Jots.
El G. I have been neglectful in answering. My apologies for not updating. Life’s huge storms seem to get in the way,,,figuratively and literally. Thank you so much for your concern.
Jots, your words are beautiful. Wishing you courage and strength during this difficult time.
Belated…so belated…thank you for your words. It is now difficult to express the care and concern My Reader (and myself) have received. Amazing our family of friends…out there…
Thank you.
Absolutely took my breathe away and gave me a warm feeling inside and the realisation of how fragile our lives are yet the memories and the years we can share with our friends and family are so important. Thank R, for such a heart felt piece.
Apologies for not replying to so many comments left. Yes, friends and memories shared keep the world turning in the right direction. Thank you for your words. Glorious Sunday to you, J.
So very true. I hope you had interesting weekend and the week brings better weather. Regards J
All my strength and love, friend. Reach out: I’m there for you.
Brian…you are a Gem of a Friend…right from the very beginning. Thank you so much for always being there…here for me. Thank you. Sincerely. Raye
Thank you for being a true friend and sharing your moments and history with us. Being there for each other. That is what it is all about, isn’t it? Take care. BTG
1pointperspective (comment below) said it pretty well, “…As for making new friends, I seem to be making more on this site than anywhere else.” All the kind words of friendship (yours included) and support made my visit not easier…but I didn’t have to make it alone. Thank you so much for that.
You are most welcome and I agree about our blog buddies. Take care, BTG
How sweet of you to share and write about these tender moments.
Thank you so much, Tina. I know from reading your own words…that you know of difficult times. Again, thank you.
Very very nice! How lucky you are to have had hertfor so long.
Tough days ahead. Your caring comments are appreciated. Thank you.
I don’t envy you having to say goodbye, but I do envy the beautiful relationship you have with Eloise, Jots. Will be thinking of you both.
Thank you Madame W. for your thoughts and kind words. R.
A moving piece. I’ve lost most of my old friends. At the age of 53, making new friends is as do-able as ever, but making old friends is an opportunity which has passed me for good. I’m sorry to read of your gradual losing of E. but I’m happy for you that you had those many years.
As for making new friends, I seem to be making more on this site than anywhere else.
With tears…we are Family…You, each and every one. What comfort. Thank you.
Beautiful tribute, Jots. Time is powerful, skirting and keeps going, no matter how we try to capture and hold on to it.
Today is just that, TM….a hold on day. Thank you so much for your words, as always.
R.
I’m just glad you had each other for the really bad times and also glad you have the time to say goodbye. Not easy. But wish you both strength for these days together. Of course she will always be there with you and for you. Strong ties bind, they don’t dissolve.
Lots of hugs from over here in England. Remember to be kind to yourself.
Shared history does, indeed, serve a purpose. Strength today. Memories tomorrow. You know I appreciate your words, thank you.
no words, just lots of hugs for you. People like that are so special, so rare and we can only enjoy what time we have with them, be it short or long, and 47 years is a good long time, over 17000 days to remember and carry you through.
Hugs received. E. and I met when I was barely 18 years old. You are right…a good long time, a lot of days…carry through days from here. My hugs back, J.
Raye
Thank you for that — I needed that (i think that is obvious from my post today) especially poignant to me: “Only the history we share is fading. Not the spirit of our history.”
With tears I wrote that after reading your words…which described the emptiness we feel after losing someone dear and beloved. Hoping we both find shared comfort from our own spirit of history. Again, thank you so much.
My thoughts are with you. Not much more to say than that. I’m sure it will not be easy, but it’s good you have the opportunity to say good-bye.
Yes. One more opportunity to let E. know what an enormous hand she had in making many lives better. Especially mine. Thank you for your kindness.
She’s lucky to have you there for her, and you to have her.
I’m not religious in the least, but I’ve found that just the logistics of the conversation change.
And the shared history carries on.
Hell, sounds like you know that better than me.
If there’s anything I can do for you (no idea what, but still…), let me know.
Today I’m a mess. Headed to San Diego tomorrow to essentially say good-bye. I will speak in present tense: I am so very fortunate to have her in my life.
Always….
Thank you so much for your kindness.
Raye